Nice People V Good People

nice people v good people

I’ve noticed a pattern with a lot of high performing creative entrepreneurs. They are incredibly gifted at what they do, they over deliver for clients, people love them, yet deep down…

…they don’t have the influence, impact or income they know they are capable of.

Maybe you can relate to this?

If so, I would have you consider the reason you’re not having the “success” you desire is probably because you are too “Nice.”

I know I spent a really good portion of my life being a “nice” guy.

Yet, I’ve come to learn “nice” people don’t get paid. “Good” people do.

More importantly, “nice” people aren’t truly happy. “Good” people are.

What Are “Nice” People?

“Nice” people usually only care about what other people think of them. They unknowingly hinder their own success because they tend to give into the pressures and demands of others to ensure people “like” them.

“Nice” people seem to be afraid to “hurt” peoples’ feelings and avoid conflict rather than standing up for what they truly believe.

What Are “Good” People?

“Good” people understand there are three types of business in this world.

Their business, other peoples’ business and God’s business and they know they can only control their own business.

As a result of this belief, they do not waste time thinking about what other people “should” do and they handle what really “is” going on.

They know their feelings, emotions and lives are just important as all other people and do not make themselves miserable for the sake of others.

They stand for what they believe and honor their word.

Their heart-felt intent is to serve and help other people as long as this means they do not hinder their own “success” in the process.

The Distinction Between Being A Nice Person Vs A Good Person

There is a small distinction between “nice” people and “good” people and it comes down to operating from a place of not needing approval from anyone outside of them.

Most high performing creative entrepreneurs tend to crave approval from someone they respect. This could be their mother, father, grandfather, sibling or maybe a group of people.

The problem with this is “nice” people will never gain the respect and approval they are wanting from another person. Never.

Why is this?

For one very simple reason…

…if they received approval it would violate the universal Law of Being.

This “law” states, “who you are being is based on the level of awareness of who you really are. This determines what and who you are going to attract into your life and what type of life you will live.”

Let’s make this easier to understand.

If you do not approve of yourself, how can you expect others to approve of you?

How can they give you something you do not give yourself?

This was one of the biggest breakthroughs of my life.

For years, I thought if I did good in school, was one of the best guys on my club soccer team and could build a successful business, speak at CreativeLive, be featured on Business Insider, then my dad would finally be proud of me tell me how great I am.

And finally with his approval, I would believe I’m finally “good enough.”

I operated with that belief system for 30 years.

Then everything changed because I realized for the first time, no matter what I built, did or do, my dad would never tell me he was proud of me. I would never have his approval.

And when I stopped blaming him for what he “should” do and instead started handling my business rather than his, and went to work on me, my income and happiness increased dramatically.

This is one of the greatest gifts my dad ever gave me.

I’m so grateful for it because, without it, I may have never found my own sense of approval and may never have been able to claim my personal sense of power.

So, let’s look at the differences between “nice” and “good” people so you can see which way you are showing up as a Creator.

3 Differences Between Nice and Good People

Difference #1:

“Nice” people don’t want to rock the boat and avoid conflict like the plague.

“Good” people are willing to stand up for what they believe and know how to communicate their ideas and beliefs.

Difference #2:

“Nice” people are willing to settle for a Win/Lose or Lose/Win situation.

This means one person gets what they want and the other person doesn’t.

“Good” people only accept a Win/Win situation.

Difference #3:

“Nice” people will say Yes, when they feel they should say no, but are afraid to let someone down.

“Good” people are totally okay with saying No, when it supports them the best.

These are all small distinctions, yet they play a huge role in creative entrepreneurs getting paid what their worth, claiming their personal power and having more clarity, confidence, courage and certainty.

So how do you shift from being “Nice” to “Good?”

How to Shift From Nice to Good

Step 1:

Admit you’re currently being a “Nice” person.

While being nice to people is fine, it will not serve you in breaking through to the next level your soul is calling forth for your life and business.

It’s time to commit to being a “Good” person.

Step 2:

Draw a line in the sand and commit to being a “Good” person from now on.

I’m not telling you to go out and literally draw a line in the sand. You can if you want.

What I’m really telling you to do, is commit today to start being a “Good” person.

If you don’t want to do something, say No. It’s okay to stop trying to please everyone.

Anytime you find yourself slipping into old patterns of being a “Nice” person, simply recommit.

Step 3:

Reprogram your mind to be a “Good” person.

In order to do this, meditate with telling yourself some “I AM” statements, such as I am powerful, I am strong, I am a high paid creator, I am a high paid speaker, I am prosperity, I am wealthy, I am healthy, I am lean and shredded, I am a bad ass M$*$&^ F$#*!@!

Sometimes I use expletives because it’s how I mentally talk to myself. Most high functioning creative entrepreneurs I’ve met tend to do the same.

Maybe you can relate?

One of my favorite morning routines is to sit in one of my favorite chairs, put on my headphones, put on some motivational music, close my eyes, take a few deep breathes and silently repeat my “I AM” statements and more importantly “feel” them.

I allow myself to “feel” powerful, wealthy, lean and shredded, etc.

Here’s a link to one of my favorite Motivational Music videos.

Remember this…

You are more powerful than you know.

You deserve everything and need nothing.

It’s time Creator.

Conquer.

Your Next Steps

Now that you understand the difference between being a “Nice” or “Good” person, if you want to connect with entrepreneurs who are committed to being “Good” people, then make sure you join the Entrepreneurs Creating Freedom Community.

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